Bitches and Stitches

My son-in-law and daughter got me a sewing machine for Christmas last year and I have been learning how to sew. One of the first things that I did was take all of my t-shirts that I don’t wear, turned them into a quilt, a quilt that I didn’t measure, plan out, neatly cut squares for, and it’s obvious.

The quilt is the size of my living room floor, much larger than the size of my bed. It looks like a Hell hound ran through my fabric and tore at everything it saw, it is not a pretty quilt, and I should have done it right the first time.

Now, yesterday I made a dress, I followed all of the instructions on the tutorial, I measured, I pinned, I planned, and I ended up with a lovely dress that looks nearly exactly how I imagined it.

It got me to thinking, as I was putting the effort into the dress, of the song Season of the Witch, the line “you’ve got to pick up every stitch” and then that led me to remember when my grandmother used to say, “a stitch in time saves nine” and every other fucking proverb, dicho, adage and cliche of sewing popped into my head and I was spinning with the realization that I am a lazy motherfucker who needs to start doing steps 1-5 before trying to tackle 6.

Often, it is our own lack of effort, organization and even self-awareness, which leads to something being weaker than it could be, less polished, less finished, than it could be. We think, it’s good enough.

But what is ‘good enough?’ Aren’t you worth more? Aren’t the things you do worth more of an effort? If your name is attached to it, don’t you want it to reflect that?

I know that when I was done with the dress, put it on, came out and said, “tada” to my roommate and he said, “did you just make that? It looks like it’s store-bought” it was way more awesome of a compliment than when he saw the quilt and said, “so what happened here?”

Too often we excuse our laziness, our lack of effort, to recognizing, being ‘woke’ enough to know that perfection is a pipe dream. But ‘good enough’ is lowering the bar so much that we might as well just not bother.

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